Posts in the category “Acting Like a Grown-Up”

The Importance of Setting Good Expectations

Acting Like a Grown-Up

Every negative emotion I’ve felt (or caused) can be traced back to violated expectations. Learning to set better expectations is a business superpower.

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I Want Out: What to Do When We Feel Stuck and We Want to Start Over

What to do when we find ourselves feeling stuck or without a clear sense of direction. HINT: We don’t necessarily need to burn it all down and start over.

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The Learning Trap, or, how learning new stuff makes me act like a jerk.

We all hate that smug asshole who tries to force an opinion on us. So why is it so easy to BECOME that smug asshole when we learn new things?

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How to Overcome All Your Fears Without Being Brave

Most of our fears are irrational, but we can overcome them with one simple technique. No heroics required.

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No one is coming to save you. Are you going to save yourself?

It’s easy to wait for a hero to step in and rescue us. Turns out, though, there aren’t any heroes — we’re on our own. It’s on us to write a happy ending.

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Completely Alone at a Table of Friends

It’s fun to be connected. To stay on top of the goings-on in the world. But what’s the price for cultural relevance? And is it worth the sacrifice?

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Wizards and Assholes

When someone asks you for guidance, do you help him out? Or do you condescend to him and make him feel like an idiot?

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Are You Growing Up? Or Just Growing Older?

Around the world and throughout history, there are rites of passage that propel children into adulthood. Our culture doesn't have one. Are we doomed?

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Take Away Its Power

As a kid I was so scared of horror films I'd get scared just thinking about them. As I got older I learned to see how the movie ends to take away its power.

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Your Taste Doesn’t Matter

Getting worked up because things that don’t affect me aren’t done my way is a shortcut to an extremely frustrating and deeply dissatisfying existence.

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